140 Questions to Ask Your Crush and Get to Know Each Other Better

When you have a crush on someone new, it’s natural to want to know every single thing about them. This “getting to know you” stage—ahem, what some might call the “talking” stage—is one of the most exciting parts of building a relationship. The butterflies in your stomach are off the charts and every date feels like the best night of your life. But, it’s normal if this era also feels a little nerve-wracking, especially if you haven’t had great relationship luck in the past. That’s why we put together this list of questions to ask your crush. If you ever worry about running out of things to talk about, or date banter doesn’t quite come naturally to you (also so normal, btw), don’t be afraid to refer to this list for casual inspo. The key is to pick questions that are deep enough to get to know the object of your affections and establish a connection without coming off like you’re conducting a job interview, says relationship coach Carmel Jones.

Besides, open communication is super fundamental to a healthy relationship long-term. You might not feel super comfy opening all the way up this early, but questions like the ones on this list can help you and your person feel comfortable enough to get there eventually—like deep conversation practice, if you will. While most of the questions on this list are relatively light, others dive a little deeper, unpacking topics like family, politics, and goals. Not necessarily first-date fodder, but still good to discuss early-on so that you can ensure you’re on the same page. Ultimately, the goal of this fun crush stage is to get to know each other and decide if you like what you’re experiencing enough to keep it going, all while genuinely enjoying each other’s company in the process. “I think if you go in with an open mind, you’re friendly and keep things simple, and you listen, that’s really important,” says conversation expert Debra Roberts, LCSW, president of The Relationship Protocol.

Below, some easy places to start.

Icebreaker Questions to Ask Your Crush

1. If you could have dinner with any three people (dead or alive), who would they be?
2. What’s a book you could read over and over again?
3. What’s an album you could listen to on repeat forever?
4. What’s one thing that can instantly make your day better?
5. If you could switch lives with one person for a day, who would it be?
6. Would you ever want to be famous?
7. What’s the most interesting documentary you’ve ever watched?
8. How long have you lived in [insert name of their city]?
9. If you had to live in a different city, which one would you choose?
10. Do you have roommates?
11. Where are you from/where did you grow up?
12. How did you like growing up there?
13. What do you do for work, and how did you decide you wanted to be a [insert their profession here]?
14. Are you happy with your career so far?
15. When you were little, what did you want to be when you grew up?
16. If money wasn’t an issue, what would you do?
17. How did your parents meet?
18. Do you have any siblings?
19. How do you like to spend your free time after work?
20. What do you do to relax?
21. Do you have a solid group of friends here?
22. How did you meet your best friend?
23. Do you prefer to have a big group of friends or a few close friendships?
24. Did you have any pets growing up?
25. Do you have a pet now, and if not, would you ever want to get one?
26. Are you a dog or cat person?
27. What’s a typical Saturday look like for you?
28. Did you grow up playing any sports, and do you still play any of them today?
29. Do you play any instruments? Are there any you’d like to learn to play now?
30. Is there a talent or hobby you wish you had or one you’d like to learn?
31. Where’s your favorite place in the world?
32. Is there anything you want to learn how to do?
33. Do you like to travel?
34. What’s the best (or craziest) trip you’ve ever been on?
35. Do you like to cook, or are you Team Takeout?
36. What’s your favorite thing to make/favorite restaurant to order in from?
37. What’s your favorite time of year?
38. Do you have any yearly traditions?

Flirty Questions to Ask Your Crush

1. What’s your idea of the perfect morning with someone you like?
2. Is there a song that reminds you of someone you’re interested in?
3. What’s the most romantic movie you’ve ever seen?
4. If we were at a movie, would you put your arm around me? How would you make the first move?
5. What do you wear when you want to feel extra attractive?
6. Do you think you’re a good kisser?
   
7. What do you think makes someone a good kisser?
8. Where would you take me on our next date?
9. How do you know when you have a crush on someone?
10. What was the first thing you noticed about me when we met?
11. How long do you think it takes to fall in love with someone?
12. Do you remember your first kiss?
    
13. What was your first impression of me?
    
14. What’s something weird that you find attractive?
    
15. What’s your love language?
    
16. Do you know your attachment style?
17. Describe your ideal date.
18. What are your biggest turn-ons?
19. What about turn-offs?
20. Do you like to make the first move or prefer it when others make the first move?
    
21. I bought tickets for a concert. Do you want to be my date?
22. What made you want to swipe right on me/approach me/DM me?
23. What do you look for in a partner?
24. Is there anything you want to do together?
25. Do you think you and I are compatible?
26. What are a few things you think we have in common?
27. Do you believe in love at first sight?
28. Try your best pickup line on me.
29. If you had to pick between cuddling or kissing, what would you pick?
30. Do you prefer being the big spoon or the little spoon?
31. What would you do if I kissed you right now?
32. What’s your flirting style?
33. Did a lot of people have a crush on you in high school?
34. What do you think is the most attractive thing about you?
35. What do you think is the most attractive thing about me?
36. Tell me a secret.

Funny Questions to Ask Your Crush

1. If you could be a character on any TV show, who would you be and why?
2. What’s the funniest way you’ve ever been rejected?
3. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
4. What’s the silliest fear you have?
5. What’s the worst piece of advice someone has ever given you?
6. Who is your celebrity crush?
7. Have you ever had a celebrity encounter that didn’t meet your expectations?
8. What’s the weirdest dream you’ve ever had?
9. Do you believe in astrology?
10. What’s your go-to karaoke song?
11. What songs do you usually sing in the shower?
12. What is one rule you really enjoy breaking?
13. Your kidnappers would return you for talking about _________ for two hours.
14. If your life was a TV show, what would the theme song be?
15. What does your TikTok FYP look like?
16. What are your guilty pleasures?
17. Do you have any weird skills or talents?
18. What’s your most embarrassing moment?
19. What’s your favorite memory from high school and/or college?
20. What’s something you’re legitimately bad at?
21. What was your favorite toy as a kid? What about your favorite TV show?
22. What TV show (or podcast or artist) are you obsessed with right now?
23. What or who always makes you laugh without fail?
24. Would you ever fake a sick day? If so, how would you spend it?
25. What’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever bought for yourself?
26. What’s your favorite story to tell about your best friend?
27. Tell me the best joke you’ve ever heard.
28. Has anyone ever used a pickup line on you? If so, what was it?
29. Tell me about your most awkward date ever.
30. Have you ever met any of your favorite celebs? What were they like?
31. Tell me about your first-ever crush.
    

Deep Questions to Ask Your Crush

1. What’s the most valuable lesson your past relationships have taught you?
2. What does vulnerability mean to you, and how do you show it?
3. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
4. What’s a dream you’ve never told anyone?
5. If you could ask one person one question, and they had to answer truthfully, who and what would you ask?
6. How do you feel about [insert your deal breaker here]?
7. What kind of first impression do you think you have on people?
8. What’s one thing you wish you were better at?
9. What do you think is your biggest flaw?
10. Do you think it’s better to stay friends with exes or to cut ties with them?
11. What’s something you worry about?
12. What’s your least popular opinion?
13. Where do you hope to be in the next few years?
14. What are you most thankful for?
15. What are your thoughts on monogamy?
16. What is something that people usually misunderstand about you?
17. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
18. Have you ever been to therapy?
19. Who is your hero?
20. Which parent are you closest to?
21. What’s your biggest fear?
22. Who are you closest to in your family?
23. Who do you turn to when you need honest advice?
24. Who would you say knows you better than anyone else?
25. Do you want to be in a relationship right now?
26. What do you think would be your ideal relationship style?
27. When was your last relationship?
28. Why did it end?
29. Do you think you’re over your ex?
30. When it comes to priorities like work, life, family, and friends, how does each rank compared to the others?
31. Do you see yourself being a parent one day?
32. Do you see yourself living here forever, or would you ever like to live somewhere else?
33. What do you hope your life looks like when you retire?
34. Do you keep up with political news?
35. Where do you stand on [insert important issue here]?