PSA: Your girlfriend wants you to ask her questions. And not just logistical questions like when was the last time you ordered toilet paper or what she wants for dinner (unless that’s a trick question and you already have her favorite takeout in your Uber Eats cart). We mean real questions about her work, hobbies, friends, what she’s excited about, and more. Even if you think you already know the answers, she still wants to know that you’re locked in and engaged in all the things that make her…her! Having cute questions to ask your girlfriend can help show that you genuinely want to keep up-to-speed on what’s going on in her life. She might share everything with you without being prompted, but everyone’s got their own inner world. Be a part of hers more intentionally with open communication and curiosity.
Plus, not to state the obvious, but people change! If you and your girlfriend have been together forever, she might have a new favorite book, or happiest memory, or career goal that’s different from the one she had when you first started dating. Asking each other questions and keeping the lines of communication open are key to staying connected through every stage of life.
Enter: Our master list of the best questions to ask your girlfriend. We organized these based on topics that range from early dating getting-to-know-you questions, to questions that go a bit deeper. There’s even a section for spicy questions when you want to heat things up or rekindle your physical chemistry. Hot!
These are great for date night, over coffee in the morning, on a long road trip (commit a few to memory and phone screens down, pls!), or during any moment that just feels right—when you know, you know. Enjoy each other’s company and get talking!
Questions to Ask If You Just Started Talking
There’s a lot of ground to cover when you’re just getting to know a new love interest—there’s only so much even the most robust dating app profile can tell you, after all. Allow these fun and low-pressure questions to help you start filling in the gaps.
- What are you looking for in a relationship?
- What does an ideal weekend look like for you?
- What are your thoughts on long-distance dating?
- What is your biggest fear?
- How do you feel about astrology?
- What are your thoughts on who picks up the check?
- Who’s your closest friend and why?
- If you had to live in a different city, where would you go?
- What is the worst movie you’ve ever seen?
- What was your AIM screen name?
- Tell me something on your bucket list.
- Early riser or night owl?
- How do you wind down after work?
- What is your biggest pet peeve?
- What is your go-to drink?
- What music do you listen to?
- What’s your favorite book?
- Who’s your favorite musician or band?
- What’s one movie you could watch over and over again?
- Coffee or tea?
- What’s your relationship like with your family?
- Do you consider yourself to be romantic?
- Are you religious?
- How do you lean politically?
Serious Questions to Ask If You Wanna Get Deep
From future plans to more philosophical topics, these questions can help you really get to know each other on a whole new level. Ask these Qs when you’re ready to get into it. Like, all of it.
- Do you see yourself having kids one day?
- What’s your biggest regret?
- What makes you feel safe?
- When did you know you loved me?
- What is one moment in your life you would love to relive?
- Do you see yourself getting married one day?
- What would you change about yourself?
- What’s something you will never give up or change for me?
- What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever been through?
- What would you do if you got a chance to repeat life all over again?
- What’s one thing you would say to your younger self?
- What’s something no one knows about you?
- Which parent are you closest to?
- How soon into a relationship would you want to meet my family?
- Have you been to therapy?
- Have you ever had a friend breakup?
- What is something people usually misunderstand about you?
- When you are upset, do you want support or alone time?
- What is your happiest childhood memory?
- Do you have any phobias?
- What’s one thing you would change about your childhood?
- If you could reconnect with one person from your past, who would it be?
- If money wasn’t an object, would you pursue your same career, or try something different?
Flirty Questions to Ask If You Wanna Get More Intimate
We’re not talking about the super sexy sex stuff here. (Don’t worry, we’ll get there.) These cute Qs are best for when you’re ready to turn up the heat a little bit, but aren’t trying to turn the convo into straight-up foreplay.
- What is your love language?
- What is your biggest turn-on?
- Major turn-offs?
- Do you like to make the first move?
- Do you think you’re a good kisser?
- Who was your first crush?
- Thoughts on cuddling?
- How did your last relationship end?
- What’s your biggest regret from your last relationship?
- Have you ever been in love?
- What was your first impression of me?
- Are you the big spoon or little spoon?
- Do you like sharing a bed?
- Do you like to be complimented?
- What type of personality are you attracted to?
- When was your first kiss?
- What are your thoughts on open relationships/non-monogamy?
- What’s the most random/unexpected thing you’re attracted to?
- What attracts you to me?
- What’s your favorite date we’ve ever been on and why?
Sexy Questions to Ask If You Wanna Get Spicy
Here they are: all the sexy sex questions to ask your girlfriend when you’re ready to take things to the next level. Maybe you’ve just started hooking up, maybe you’ve been sharing a bed for years. Either way, trading sexy Qs can open up bigger (v important!) discussions about boundaries, wants, and desires. (And turn you both on in the process, obvs.)
- Favorite place to be kissed?
- What’s your favorite position?
- What’s your least favorite position?
- F*ck, Marry, Kill: missionary, doggy style, and cowgirl?
- What’s the hottest memory you have of us?
- What part of you is craving the most attention right now?
- Do you prefer giving head or receiving head?
- Morning sex or night sex?
- Lights on or lights off?
- Hard and fast, or slow and sensual?
- How often do you masturbate?
- What’s one sex act/sex position you think is overrated?
- Weirdest place you’ve had sex?
- Shower sex: Yay or nay?
- Sex toys: Yay or nay?
- Do you like using sex toys? Would you want to try toys in the bedroom?
- How do you feel about sexting?
- How would you feel about watching porn together?
- Do you have any kinks?
- What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to try in bed?
- Have you ever had a threesome? Are interested in group sex?
Funny Questions To Ask If You Want To Make Them Laugh
Because honestly? Sometimes the best sound in the world is your partner’s laugh. It’s just as important to keep things ~light and fun~ as it is to go deep. Besides, you never know where a funny question may lead the conversation…
- Who is the strangest person you know?
- If you were a team mascot, what would you be?
- How often do you laugh when you’re alone?
- Have you ever eaten a booger? Be honest.
- What’s your go-to karaoke song?
- Have you ever had an imaginary friend? What were they like?
- If you had a dog what would you name them?
- What’s your most embarrassing story?
- Which celebrity couple reminds you of us?
- What’s the weirdest food combination you actually like?
- Do you talk to animals in a baby voice?
- Would you ever take dance lessons together and if so, which kind?
- Have you ever successfully used a pick up line and if so, what was it?
- What fictional city or town would you like to live in?
- Do you snore when you sleep? Tell the truth!
- Do you believe in pineapple as a pizza topping?
Questions to Ask If You’ve Been Dating Forever
Whether you’ve been in an LTR for a year or you’re like, married married, there’s still plenty to learn about each other.
- Where would you ideally like to spend the holidays ?
- Where’s the next place we should travel together?
- Is there anything you feel we need to work on together?
- Is there anything I can do to make you feel more loved?
- Are you happy with how often we see each other?
- Thoughts on living together before marriage?
- If we broke up tomorrow, what would you do?
- What feels hard in your life right now?
- What is something about me you would change?
- What do you want more of from our relationship?
- How can we argue in a productive way?
- What have you always wanted to teach me?
- What do you want our next date night to look like?
- What is a new place you want to visit?
- If we took a relationship break, what’s the first thing you would do?
- What can I do to make you feel more appreciated?
- Are you comfortable around my friends?
- What is a bad habit I have that you think I should work on?
- Where do you see us five years from now?
Random Questions To Ask Just for Fun
TBH: Sometimes the best conversations come from the most random questions. Besides, if you’ve been together for a long time, you might be surprised what obscure facts you don’t know about your SO. (And finding them out will only bring you closer!)
- What’s your favorite style trend right now?
- What’s your favorite kind of fruit juice?
- What’s your go-to drink order?
- Can you describe yourself in three words?
- What’s your favorite movie quote?
- Do you have any secret talents and if so, what are they?
- If you had a highway billboard, what would you put on it?
- Who is your favorite actor?
- What’s the most interesting conversation you’ve ever had with a stranger?
- If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
- What’s the story behind your first name?
- What was your favorite television show as a kid?
- What’s the most complicated dish you’ve ever cooked?
- How do you feel about team sports? Ever played them?
- What was the best vacation you’ve ever had?
- What’s your go-to movie theater snack?
- What’s your favorite song of all time?
