28 Romantic Valentine’s Day Sex Positions for Every Type of Relationship

The Proposal

Set out a special spread to show your partner the love. (Try one of these stellar V-Day food and drink pairings.) End your feast with a romantic flourish by presenting them with a V-Day dessert topped with a cock ring. They’ll get the idea of what you really want to eat.

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The Peace Out

Ask your ~lover~ to make a V with their fingers on your vulva, pressing a finger on each side of the clit to make the tip pop out a little. They can use a flat tongue for wide sweeps, the tip of the tongue to flick back and forth, and/or they can suck gently. Try a flavored lube for bonus V-Day flair.

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The All-NIghter

Can’t tear yourself await from each other? Then don’t. Spend the whole night as close as you can possibly be with swaddling sex, a sleeping/sex position hybrid where you and your partner agree to fall asleep together during penetration. It’s a way to feel connected all night long. Use a lube that will make it through the night so when they slide out, they can just slide right back in.

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Sexual Spooning

There’s nothing more lovey-dovey than spooning, and if the little spoon widens their legs, it’s sweet and sexy. “With this position, both partners have ready access to the clitoris to stimulate with a hand or toy,” says LELO sexpert Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate. “For added clitoral pleasure, before getting into the position (or during), put some arousal oil all over the vulva and clitoris.” And when you’ve worn each other out? “It’s also an easy position to fall into a dreamy post-sex nap or sleep in!” she says.

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The Big Tease

“Spend an evening teasing your partner until they can’t wait another minute to have you,” says Davis-Fainbloom. “The tease is all in the anticipation. At the restaurant, whisper to your partner what you want to do with them after dinner. Text them a sexy photo you took in the bathroom during dessert. When you get home, slowly undress your partner and massage them everywhere other than where they are aching to be touched. Only amp it up when they’re begging for it.” If they want to return the favor, put on a wearable vibe and hand them the remote…

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The Tantra/BDSM Combo Pack

Mix the classic yab-yum tantric pose with a touch o’ bondage. “Using deliciously silky shibari rope made of silk, hemp, or jute, partners tie themselves together (not too tight but tight enough to feel really connected). Extra rope can also be used to bind hands together, for some extra-connective yab-yumminess,” says Sylvie Bee, who runs Sex and Sensibility, a sex, intimacy, and pleasure coaching practice. “The key to this is eye gazing and synchronized breathing for extra intimacy.

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The Valentine’s Feast

One partner lies back on a table or countertop, serving themselves up, and the other stands to penetrate with their penis or a strap-on. “This move is perfect for super-romantic couples who still got a lot of ‘I miss you so bad and I want you right now’ feelings pumping through their veins,” says Aliyah Moore, PhD, resident certified sex therapist at SexualAlpha. “It also benefits couples who are huge fans of clitoral play and deep penetration.” Keep a little space between yourselves for clit stim via hands or a bullet vibrator.

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The Bone Away From Home

“When you want to have phone sex, it can be as close to the real thing as possible—it’s the gift that keeps on giving,” says Sloan. Have your partner tell you what they’d do to you if you were together IRL and give them a show via video chat. They please themselves on the other end. Win-win.

Face-to-Face

“Think of this position as missionary on its side,” says Ruby Payne, sex expert at adult-toy retailer UberKinky. “Focus on getting as close as possible to your partner so that you’re completely pressed against one another. Move slowly together, letting the sensual nature of this position completely take over.”

The Swoon

“People fantasize about sex against the wall,” says Liv Arnold, an erotic rom-com writer. Stand and wrap your leg around your partner’s hips, like you’re in the part of the book where they have insanely passionate sex for the first time. “It allows for quickies, and you don’t even need to undress.”

The “I Need You Now”

“Set the tone for the hookup with wild doggy-style leaning on the kitchen table. Your partner can grab your hair and cheekily slap your butt,” says Katherin Winnick, sex coach and BDSM expert at Let’s Talk Sex. “If you’re close to the fridge, have your partner rub an ice cube down your back.” Ultimate chills.

The Party Favors

“Sexting is great, but a little virtual masturbation party is even better,” says Carrie Smith, VP of product at Cake. “Sending your partner a bottle of arousal gel as a surprise gift will keep them happy (and hot!).” Tell each other exactly what to do with your new gifts.

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The Dirty Dog

“It’s kind of like a bougie version of the classic doggy-style position except way more steamy!” says sex educator Rachael Z. It feels really good, and it’s super versatile. “It’s a receiver submissive position, so it’s perfect for rough, dirty, aggressive sex. Incorporate hair-pulling, the giver holding your wrists behind your back, or holding you firmly in place. It’s also easy to transform it into a slow, sexy, romantic position. The penetrating partner can whisper in their partner’s ear, kiss their neck, or caress their body. Go slow.”

The Lube-y Self-Love

Step 1: Apply a stimulating gel or oil to your vulva. (If you use one with CBD, rub it in for about 10 minutes so it can take effect.)

Step 2: Womanizer clit vibe, for the wee little clit BJ you never knew you needed.

Step 3: Slide a glass dildo or internal vibrator against the top wall of your vagina.

Step 4: Await the best orgasm of your life.

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The Two Hearts Beat as One

Face each other and wrap your legs around each other. You can do it with penetration (a double-headed dildo works too) or just rub lube-y hands on each other’s most sensitive spots. Rock each other gently and gaze into each other’s eyes. Don’t even say anything, just watch.

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The Valentine’s Present

If FaceTime/Skype sex is all that can happen, offer yourself as their personal plaything. Put on something sexy, surround yourself with a few toys, and tell your partner you’ll do their bidding. Will they have you strip? Play with yourself? Touch themselves and not allow you to do the same? Dunno. Kinda kinky though.

The Feeling Is Mutual

No matter where you are in your relationship, mutual masturbation is a surprisingly good way to connect as a couple. Kneel facing each other, sitting back on your heels if it’s more comfortable. Go slowly and watch each other’s faces as you go up to and through orgasm—touching each other, too, if the feeling strikes.

Masturbating in front of your partner is super sexy but also incredibly intimate and personal. Light a candle or two to make it feel like some sex magic is happening.

The Lazy 69

The good thing about friends with benefits—besides the benefits—is that no one’s trying to impress anyone. Break out your more hard-core, failproof sex toy for this 69-adjacent move.

You: Lie back on pillows with your toy powered up between your legs. Them: Straddle you with their genitals in easy reach of your mouth. Fire up your toy (hand them the remote…or don’t) and it will attend to you while you attend to your partner orally.

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The Underhanded Approach

While your partner is on all fours, approach them from the rear (literally) with a very lube-y finger or dildo at the entrance to their bum. When they’re ready, they can move their hips back and forth onto the finger/toy, so they’re in control of how much they want to take in.

Get another handful of lube (a coconut-oil-based formula is safe with toys and vaginas and effective enough for anal) and cup their area to give them incredible dual stimulation.

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