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The Benchwarmer
Take advantage of a shower for wet BJ. “Use the bench to help provide some easy, hands-free action,” says Sloan. (If your shower is sadly bench-free, totally fine to stand.) “If you have a waterproof toy or a removable shower wand, this position also allows you a hand to simultaneously take care of yourself. You can also allow the water to enter your mouth providing additional sensations, as well as an easy clean up.”
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The Sweet 16
Having BJ stress? Fear not! “The sweet 16 is an easy position that works well for anyone with anxiety around giving a blow job,” says Sloan. “With your back to your partner’s face, it blocks the view, preventing the receiver from seeing what the giver is doing, for anyone shy about being watched.” Even if you’re the farthest thing from BJ shy, this is still very worth trying. “It provides the ideal anatomical angle for going deep and allows you to have both hands free, which is especially helpful for anyone working with a larger penis.”
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The Sidecar
How lazy can you be? Sidecar lazy. “This is a relaxed way to give a blow job without the giver ever having to get out of bed,” says Sloan. “The giver can use one hand to hold and direct the penis into their mouth, while controlling the thrusting movement by holding on to their partner’s behind with their other hand. This is ideal for lazy Sunday mornings or for anyone with limited movement.” If you want to be even lazier—yes, it can be done!—have the partner do the thrusting. Fire up a rabbit toy and revel in your ingenuity.
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The B (and P) Job
If your partner is into it, incorporate the P-spot. You can use your finger to gently tap or stroke the upper wall of the anus as you suck on their penis. If they want more stimulation, try a vibrating prostate toy that you or your partner can maneuver. Give yourself some pleasure as well by sitting on a vibrator.
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The Loveseat Wishbone
Put your legs over the back of a sturdy sofa or loveseat and hang upside down while your partner kneels in front of the sofa. “This position is such a winner because it aligns the direction of the giver’s throat with the natural direction of the erection. “It’s very easy to deep throat in this position,” says Victoria Thomas, former columnist for Cosmopolitan Bedside Astrologer.
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The Bend Over and Blow
“Aspiring Dominants, take note: this position is all about control. While your partner lies on their back, stand beside the bed with your legs hip-width apart and bend over to take them in your mouth. Maximize the power dynamic by keeping your clothes on while they lie in front of you naked and vulnerable,” says Riccio. “Variations include tying your partner to the headboard, gagging them, tickling their feet, or placing a firm hand over their face while you blow their junk and mind. This is an ideal time to break out your panty vibe, allowing your partner to operate the remote only when they’ve been very, very good.”
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The Duck and Cover
If don’t like to swallow, set expectations by saying something like, “I want you to orgasm on my…” whatever—boobs, stomach, left elbow, etc. Keep the communication going throughout (watch their body, listen to their breathing, just ask how close they are, etc…) to make sure their Life Force goes where you want it to. For this, try a more traditional position so you can help direct the flow. (A wearable vibrator will put this position over the top for you.)
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The Face F*ck
For a more hard-core, power dynamics situation, your partner can straddle your face and, basically, give themselves a blowjob by thrusting into your mouth. If this is too much-and it totally can be!–curl your hand around their shaft as a buffer to control how deep they go. With the other hand, you can masturbate or use a toy (BTW: A thrusting toy is great here ’cause it kinda mirrors what’s going on with your mouth).
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“Lier’s” Poker
If you are feeling lazy yet generous, bring the task at hand to you by sitting back on a stack of pillows. Your mouth attends to the BJ-ing while your hands are free to touch yourself or, even easier, lie back and let a toy handle you.
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The Prop Engine
Use the power of physics and prop a largish vibrator between a mattress and box springs or the cushion and frame of a soft couch or chair. The toy will tend to you (thrusting against it is sexy too) and you’ll have your hands free to add to that glorious on-your-knees BJ you’re giving.
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The Hump and Blow
If you’re a humper, prop a pillow between your legs, slip a lubed hand down between your legs and slide back and forth over it as you suck on your partner. If you need more power, invest in a toy mount that will hold a Magic Wand or DIY it and stick a lil something between two pillows, pressing them together with your knees.
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The Yin Yang Edge
Avoid that weird 69 zone where you’re simultaneously giving and receiving yet not doing either properly by trading off. Torture your partner by bringing them juuuuust to the brink of orgasm, then switch. (High fives optional.) Lie in a sideways 69 position so that when the other person cuts you off, you barely have to move to immediately translate all your passion back to them via your mouth.
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The Double-Down
Have them stand and strip their pants off. Kneel before them, kissing your way up their inner thigh giving them to time to appreciate the always-glorious moment of “Oh my god, this gorgeous person is about to suck my dick!” As you go to town on them, ride gently on a dildo or press a vibrator against yourself. You may want to look into a rabbit-style dildo vibe with an attached part that buzzes against your clit, if you’re into both internal and external stimulation.
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Open Wide and Say “Ahhhh”
For something raunchier (and waaaaaay more satisfying) than 69, raise your hips up and away from their mouth and let them use their fingers or a favorite toy on your parts. This is great for you (see: previous sentence with the fingers and/or toy) and pretty insane for them as well. Between the upside-down BJ and completely hot close-up view of your naughty bits, you are making memories, aka future masturbation fodder.
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The Slider
If you’re in plain ol’ BJ position but get too turned on and need to do something for yourself—like, right away—straddle one of your partner’s thighs and grind against their leg. This is extra amazing if you are wet and they can feel your slipperiness as you rub on them. Gently stimulating your clit with their body will make you happier than just bobbing up and down.
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The Mouth Off
If you like to play with power dynamics, lie on your back and let your partner mount your mouth, with their head pointed toward your feet. If they support their body weight with their arms, you are free to do what you please with your hands. Work your fingers between your legs and go to town—any additional moans you may let out are a bonus for your partner in this position. When you’re surrendering control of the depth of penetration, make sure you let your partner know if they’re going too deep or you don’t love it. This one is ideal for people who enjoy rough play.
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The Stick Shift
Sometimes seeing your partner get super hard for you gives you the overwhelming urge to hop on that thing. So do it. Climb aboard for a few long, slow sexy thrusts before sliding off and taking your partner in your mouth again. If you are both into to the tastes of sex, they will absolutely love seeing you taste yourself on them. (It’s a personal thing, though one you might find worth trying. But hey, I’ll stay out of your bed. Somewhat.) Alternate using your mouth and riding them, as needed, guiding their hand to your clit when you’re on their lap. Alternating will also make them last longer, which benefits everyone.
