Just because you grow up, get over your first crush, and now apply SPF on the daily doesn’t mean you have to *fully* grow up, ya know? You can still worship Taylor Swift’s Fearless era, get your heart broken (sorry!), and play games. And, no, we don’t mean “playing games” in the sense of messing with someone’s head or stringing them along in an endless talking stage. We mean literal games—specifically, the middle school sleepover classic, truth or dare. But because, after all, we are all adults here, we’ve gone ahead and given this throwback a super sexy glow-up. And, trust, this R-rated update is significantly spicier than anything you were playing in your bestie’s basement back in 7th grade. Allow us to introduce you to dirty truth or dare.
While a round of truth or dare may not be the first thing you think of when planning an intimate night in, a little sexy game night can actually be a surprisingly hot and fun way to heat things up—with the right playmate (i.e. your crush or partner), of course. And, in addition to basically being foreplay, some sexy truth or dare action is also a great way to get to know more about each other’s sexual fantasies, desires, and boundaries.
And speaking of boundaries, let’s talk about consent for a sec, okay? As you make your way through this extensive list of dirty truth or dare questions we’ve brainstormed for you (you’re so welcome), make sure everyone involved feels 100-percent free to turn down a dare or keep the truth to themselves if they aren’t comfortable with a specific prompt or question. When it comes to sex stuff—even when you’re just playing a game—no one should ever feel pressured to do or reveal anything they don’t want to, so make sure you take the time to establish that before diving in. If you want to keep the stakes up, you can consider implementing some sort of rule or “penalty” if someone turns down a truth or dare, like taking a shot/sip of their drink or removing a piece of clothing—which might even add an extra layer of steaminess to the game.
To help you get ready to spill your sexiest secrets, we’ve graciously compiled this list of 140 Cosmo-approved truth or dare questions, from the shockingly sultry to the low-key kind of silly. (It is a game, after all.) Keep right on scrolling for all the horny truth or dare inspo your little heart could desire.
Truths
1. What’s a seemingly nonsexual thing that turns you on?
2. Have you ever had sex with more than one person in a day?
3. What’s the biggest age difference you’ve ever had with a partner?
4. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s happened to you during sex?
5. Have you ever cheated? (Bonus question for the brave: Did it turn you on?)
6. Have you ever turned down a sexual opportunity and regretted it?
7. When did you learn what sex was? What’s the story?
8. Have you ever faked an orgasm?
9. Have you ever accidentally sent a sext to the wrong person?
10. How do you feel about shower sex? Love it, hate it, or super neutral?
11. What’s the sexiest song you’ve ever heard? What about it turns you on?
12. What’s the most amount of times you’ve orgasmed in a day?
13. If we opened up our relationship, who would be the first person you’d want to have sex with?
14. Who would be in your dream orgy?
15. What do you remember most about the first time you ever had sex?
16. Who is the weirdest person you’ve had a sex dream about?
17. If you could have sex with one person from your past again, who would it be?
18. Would you ever want to watch me have sex with someone else?
19. What’s one sex toy you want me to try on you?
20. What’s a fantasy you’ve never told me about?
21. What memory from our sex life turns you on the most?
22. What would be your dream role-play scenario?
23. If you could hook up with one of my friends, who would it be?
24. What do you think I’m best at in bed?
25. Have you ever gotten turned on at work (or while WFH)? What did you do about it?
26. Have you ever hooked up with a stranger or had a one-night stand?
27. Do you prefer using your tongue or fingers on me? Which do you like me to use on you?
28. How do you feel about swinging or partner swapping? Does the idea turn you on?
29. What’s something I do that isn’t sexual but turns you on?
30. Would you ever want to go to a sex club with me?
31. Where is the strangest place you’ve ever masturbated?
32. What’s #1 on your sexual bucket list right now?
33. Have you ever been caught having sex?
34. Have you ever accidentally walked in on anyone getting it on?
35. Do you ever watch porn? Tell me what type you usually gravitate toward.
36. What’s the kinkiest thought you’ve ever had about me?
37. What’s a sex act most people like that you think is overrated?
38. What sexual activity (or activities) do you think is underrated?
39. Have you ever fantasized about a teacher or authority figure? Who was it and why?
40. Do you know the last name of everyone you’ve had sex with? What about first?
41. What is your favorite body part for me to suck on?
42. Would you prefer to dominate me in bed or do you want me to dominate you in bed?
43. Do you like being nibbled on or lightly bitten? Where?
44. What’s your favorite sex toy to use on me?
45. What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done?
46. What’s the hottest sex dream you’ve ever had?
47. Tell me one thing I could do that would make you immediately orgasm.
48. Which is your favorite kind of sex: soft, slow, and sweet or aggressive, fast, and feisty?
49. If I gave you a free pass to hook up with one celebrity, who would it be and why?
50. What item of clothing do you think I look sexiest in?
51. Describe my in-bed personality in three words.
52. If I were handcuffed to the bed, what would you do to me?
53. If you were to create an original sex move, what would you call it?
54. What’s something dirty you’ve always been too shy to say to me in bed?
55. If we could only have sex in one position for a month, what position would you pick?
56. Is there something you’ve seen in a steamy movie that you’d like to try?
57. What sex move of mine is your favorite? Give me all the dirty details about why you like it.
58. What kind of foreplay would you like to try the next time we are in bed?
59. Where do you think our most romantic kiss took place? Tell me everything you remember about it.
60. When I am on top of you, what’s your favorite part of me to watch?
61. How often do you masturbate? How often is it about me?
62. If you could go back and change anything about the first time we had sex, what would it be and why?
63. What’s your favorite text I’ve sent you when we’ve been sexting?
64. What is your least favorite sex position and why?
65. How do you feel about threesomes? Have you ever had one, and if not, would you ever have one?
66. What do you think the sexiest part of my body is?
67. What do you think the sexiest part of your body is?
68. Have you ever fantasized about anything sexual with someone of your same sex?
69. What’s the wildest place you’ve ever had sex?
70. What were you thinking when you first saw me naked?
71. Fuck, Marry, Kill: Missionary, doggy, and oral sex.
72. Have you ever fallen asleep during sex?
Dares
1. Pretend we’re strangers at a bar and you just spotted me. Try to pick me up.
2. Go down on me in a position we’ve never tried before.
3. Draw me (like one of your French girls).
4. Roleplay that you’re a professor and I’m your student. Seduce me.
5. Describe what type of lingerie really turns you on while making eye contact with me. If you laugh, you have to buy some for me.
6. Take out your wallet and pretend to be a patron at a strip club while I dance for you. (Tips are more than encouraged.)
7. Go to the kitchen and make me the sexiest snack you can think of, Master Chef style. The catch? You only have three minutes, and you’re the plate.
8. I’ll pick a song and you have to give me a lap dance. Blindfolded.
9. You can’t say my name for the rest of the game, but instead, have to call me any nickname I choose. Every time you mess up, I get to spank you.
10. Act out your sexiest fantasy without using your words. Props, however, are highly encouraged.
11. Go skinny dipping with me. (If you don’t have a private pool, get creative! The bathtub, shower, or a water fight in the kitchen all count.)
12. Trade clothes with me for the rest of the game. Once you put mine on, blast your fave hype song and show off your new look like a runway model.
13. Try to literally (li li li) lick yourself from your head to your toes. You only get three “help” spots where I can jump in, so use wisely.
14. Show me the last porn video you watched.
15. Watch me touch myself for five minutes. You’re not allowed to touch me or yourself while I do.
16. Kiss a part of my body you want to cum on.
17. Take my hand and put it on a part of your body you’d like me to pay more attention to. Guide my hand and show me how you want to be touched.
18. You have one minute to turn me on using only your feet.
19. Show me a video (an ~adult~ one, duh) of something you’d like us to try together.
20. Put on a song you find really sexy and go down on me for the length of it.
21. Imitate what I sound like when I orgasm.
22. Blindfold me and write something sexy on my body in lipstick.
23. Go in the other room and sext me the dirtiest thing you can think of.
24. Show me how you touch yourself when I’m not around.
25. Take off your pants and give me your best twerk. Now try it upside down on the wall.
26. Host a sexy, five-minute yoga class for me with lots of sensual stretching and downward dogging.
27. Call me from the other room. When it goes to voicemail, leave me an explicit message outlining exactly what you want to do to me.
28. Demonstrate your best oral sex move on the nearest appropriate object.
29. Put on “Pony” by Ginuwine, and vacuum seductively for the length of the song.
30. Turn out the lights and try to turn me on *only* using sounds. You have two minutes and if you fail, you owe me a sexual favor.
31. Give me a sensual foot massage. The hotter, the better.
32. Kiss your three favorite body parts of my body.
33. Put on a timer and act out as many sexual positions as you can with your clothes on.
34. Pick out three sex toys online you’d want to try with me. I get to pick my favorite one and you have to order it right now.
35. Take a selfie of your most outrageous “O” face. Now put that as your lock screen, and keep it that way for the next 48 hours. If you change it before time’s up, you owe me dinner.
36. Give me a detailed, charismatic cooking demonstration of “How to Make Cereal.” The catch: You gotta do it nude.
37. Set the mood and reenact the most romantic movie kiss you can think of with me. If you need some inspo, try Titanic, The Notebook, or even Spider-Man. Who knows, things might get so heated you find yourself reenacting some Bridgerton scenes next *wink wink.*
38. Go find your old Halloween costume and put it on for me. Then, let’s decide what to role-play.
39. Place whipped cream on your favorite parts of my body. Now, lick it off.
40. Eat a strawberry in the most sensual way possible.
41. Engage in foreplay with me for five minutes with one rule: You’re allowed to kiss me anywhere but my mouth.
42. Give me a massage anywhere on my body for 10 minutes.
43. Do something to me right now that you’ve been fantasizing about.
44. Find something sweet to swipe across your lips and give me a passionate kiss.
45. Drag me to the closet for an adult round of seven minutes in heaven. You must keep the making out above the belt.
46. Stimulate two parts of my body at once. Use your hands on one part and lips on another.
47. Using your mouth, make your way from my wrist to my ear. Take your time!
48. In your most sultry voice, tell me what you loved about the last time we had sex.
49. Hop in the shower with me and wash my body, making sure not to miss any hard spots.
50. You have ten seconds to excite me just by kissing. Hint: You’re not limited to my lips.
51. Imitate my most flexible sex move.
52. Make out with me like we used to before we started having sex.
53. Pole dance with an imaginary pole for the length of an entire song of my choice.
54. Play me a song you’d like to have sex to.
55. Using your fingers, find a way to give me goosebumps right now.
56. Demonstrate a move on me that you saw and liked while watching porn.
57. Give me a sensual massage. Start at my feet and work your way up.
58. For the next 60 seconds, touch yourself like you’d like to touch me.
59. Spell out a short, sultry message on my body…with your tongue.
60. Initiate a roleplay scenario and make me guess what your character is.
61. I’m going to go into the other room and dab perfume or cologne somewhere on my body. You have to sniff everywhere until you figure out where I put it on.
62. Pop an ice cube in your mouth and go down on me for 15 seconds.
63. Put my cell on vibrate, then place it somewhere on my body. Now, call me.
64. Pour a trail of sugar from the small of my back to my neck. Now, lick it up.
65. Take off my underwear…with your mouth.
66. Dip your fingertips in mouthwash and then rub my nipples so I’ll get an erotic, tingly sensation the moment you touch me.
67. Pick a spot on my body that isn’t usually considered sexual—elbows, knees, ankles—and lavish it with kisses until I’m turned on.
68. Fuck me like it’s the first time.
Rachel Varina is a full-time freelance writer covering everything from the best vibrators (the Lelo Sona) to the best TV shows (The Vampire Diaries). She has over 10 years of editorial experience with bylines at Women’s Health, Elite Daily, Betches, and more. She lives in Tampa, Florida, but did not feed her husband to tigers. When she’s not testing out new sex toys (100+ and counting so far!), she’s likely chilling with her dogs or eating buffalo chicken dip. Ideally at the same time. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter.
Kayla Kibbe (she/her) is the Associate Sex and Relationships Editor at Cosmopolitan US, where she covers all things sex, love, dating and relationships. She lives in Astoria, Queens and probably won’t stop talking about how great it is if you bring it up. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram.
